THE ESSENTIAL COMPONENTS OF AN I-MESSAGE
Children will be much more likely to change their unacceptable behavior if their parents send I-Messages containing these three parts: 1.) a description of the unacceptable behavior, 2.) the parent's feeling, and 3.) the tangible and concrete effect the behavior has on the parent.
[BEHAVIOR + FEELING + EFFECT.]
*Excerpt from Dr. Thomas Gordon's P.E.T. book