3-Part Confrontive I-Message Evaluation
Purpose: To evaluate your own three-part Confrontive I-Messages.
Directions: Use this rating to help you improve your Confrontive I-Messages:
Very Effectively/Effectively/Not Very Effectively
I described the other's specific behavior without blame.
I described the actual, real effects the behavior had on me.
I expressed my feelings honestly.
I "shifted gears" * and listened to the other's concern, upset, etc.
I resent my I-Message when necessary.
Practice developing and sending I-Messages to family members and friends by writing down what the situation is and then the I-Message.*