The purpose of this exercise is to learn to identify who has unmet needs and therefore "owns the problem."
Directions: Read the following situations. Have The Behavior Window handy to enter the number of the situation in the appropriate window. If you feel the behavior demonstrates that the child has a problem, place the number of the situation in the "Child Owns Problem" area of the window. If you feel the behavior cause the parent to have a problem, place the number in the "Parent Owns Problem" area of the window. If neither child nor parent seems to have a problem, place the number in the "No Problem" area of the window. If you feel that there is a conflict and both seem to have a problem, place the number in the "Both Own Problem" area.
Here are the situations:
- Your child tells you she is worried about failing an important test at school.
- Your daughter expresses her disapproval of her brother's friends.
- Your children often leave a mess in the kitchen and leave you the responsibility for cleaning.
- Your child is learning to play the guitar and asks you to listen to the chords he's learned.
- Your child fails to come home on time to leave for a dental appointment which you must pay for anyway.
- Your baby begins to cry while getting a tetanus shot.
- Your daughter often gets up too late to catch the school bus and then asks you to drive her to school.
- Your son needs the car to pick up a friend at the airport; you need it to go to a meeting.
E-mail us at firstname.lastname@example.org with answers that correctly identifies who "owns the problem" in the situations above. I will choose the first (5) winners. The contest will end tonight, Tuesday, April 20th at 7:30pm PST. I will post the answers to the questions tomorrow, Wednesday, April 21st.
Have fun identifying who owns the problem! Good luck to you! :)