Our advice to parents is: try everything you can think of in such cases. For instance:
- Keep talking.
- Go back to Step 2 and generate more solutions.
- Hold over the conflict until a second session tomorrow.
- make strong appeals, such as, "Come on, there must be a way to resolve this," "Let's really try hard to find an acceptable solution," "Have we explored all of the possible solutions?" "Let's try harder."
- Bring the difficulty out in the open and try to find out whether some underlying problem or "hidden agenda" is obstructing progress. You might say, "I wonder what's going on here that prevents us from finding a solution," "Are there other things bugging us that we haven't brought out?"
Usually, one or several of these approaches works and problem-solving gets started again.
*Excerpt from Dr. Thomas Gordon's P.E.T. book