This is a transcript of a real text conversation between a Mom (M), while she was taking a P.E.T. Instructor Training Workshop, and her Daughter (E). Her daughter’s friends are represented by Briana Gina, Rachel and Justine. (Names have been changed to ensure privacy).
M: Hey baby, how was your day?
E: Good, Briana wasn't so nice to me and ruined my day.
M: You sound upset sweetie.
E: Yes because I was with Briana and Gina comes and I say hi because I was happy to see her and she doesn't even answer back and pushes me away!! What is happening?? : - o : - o : - o
M: I can see that you felt ignored by Gina.
E: She always treats me badly.
M: So you feel she doesn't respect you.
E: Today I said hi after going trick a treating on the school street and she completely ignored me just because she’s jealous of me that she doesn't have the amazing parents I have – that love like you love me. And because she doesn't have friends like Briana and she’s jealous just because she wants to be like me.
M: So you are feeling that she’s jealous of what you have and at the same time you are sad because you want your friendship to be the same as before.
E: The thing is that when I’m with Briana and Gina arrives she only greets Briana and says come here and bla bla bla and takes Briana away from me and I HATE when she does that. I HATE it.
M: I can see it really makes you angry that Gina only spends time with Briana and you feel lonely.
E: No I don’t feel lonely because I have Rachel and Justine it’s just that Gina always takes what I am using or what she shouldn't be taking away because I’m with someone or something.
M: It make you angry that Gina wants what you have and you don’t want to tell her not to do it.
E: Yeah and she just gets jealous because I’m with Briana.
M: So you feel that she’s jealous that you have more time with Briana because you’re in the same school.
E: I don’t know, but when she joins us she has to take Briana away and I don’t like it because it bothers me so much.
M: So you get upset when Gina takes Briana away and you can’t really find the words or the way to tell her that what she does bothers you.
E: Yes. Exactamondo!!! The best answer ever xoxoxo
So what are you doing?
M: It makes me happy to listen to you baby and that you want to share this with me : ), : - ) : - ) : - )
E: Me too mom. I love you!! : - D : - D : - D
M: Me too!!!
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by: Selena George, P.E.T. Program Manager