Preventive I-Messages let the other know ahead of time what you will need and want. People are better able to help you meet your needs if they have a clear picture of what you will want and why.
Some examples of Preventive I-Messages:
- "I'd like to know what time we're having dinner so I can call my friend."
- "I'd like use to decide what needs to be done on that report so I can get started on my part of it."*
*Excerpt from Dr. Thomas Gordon's F.E.T. Young Adult Resource Book